Be your Best Friend!

Though I keep boosting myself towards affirmations and optimism always, there is an unhidden fact that no human can be strong throughout his life. However strong you may appear; there are situations, people, habits, assumptions that could weaken you at times & make you feel vulnerable for a very long period of time. And this is troublesome, isn’t it…Once your weakness or may be a bad phase sticks to you for a longer span, your weakness pours into your heart and mind, making you feel bad about why are you so vulnerable & why do you feel so incapable to handle such a situation or a person or a habit or may be a thought. So then and there your weakness is no longer that situation or that person or that habit but it is you, “Yourself”.

Unless you act on your thoughts & sort them you won’t feel at ease. But this itself is the toughest task. So how do we deal with it? Learn to control your thoughts. Learn to conquer your fears. Empower your weaknesses. And the only way to conquer your fear is to face it, stay with it & smash it. I assure you; day by day your fear will deplete & vanish.

My experience taught me to stay independent emotionally. There is only one person in your life that is 100% trustworthy & would be available till your last breath. She is none other than “YOU”. That doesn’t mean people surrounding you are useless & selfish, but they can just be your listeners or advisors. They would feel sorry for you and would try to cheer you up always but trust me nobody can be available to sympathize with you forever & ever, as there is a huge heap of problems already lying in their own plate. 

It is YOU who have to keep yourself alive. YOU have to think high about yourself. Flowing thoughts need to be controlled & diverted to constructive purposes. Invest all your positive energy in actions that would benefit you & would stay with you forever like exercising, developing some hobby, enhancing your qualification, meditation, and there are many more. Focus on your strengths, focus on your goals. Situations would come & go, people would come & go but YOU would be permanent. So boost yourself always, heal yourself & believe me YOU would be your own Best Friend.

You can do better than this!!

You can do better than this!!

When you talk about perfection, do you really justify your words when you say “It’s Perfect!!”; then may it be your work or may it be your way of living life or may it be whatever you have achieved in life. I have lately started believing in one fact very strongly, “I can do it better”!!

I am happy for my achievements and possessions, but I can still be at a better position. While being at work, I would give my 100%, and when I see the output, it might appear to be perfect & flawless, I might even get a proud pat on back for my work, but when I penetrate deeper I would surely find atleast some scope for improvement. There would surely be some effort, if taken, would boost my efficiency & give me a better result than before.

Similarly when I look at my Life today, I possess Love, Relationships, Friendships, and am extremely delighted for my strength of having people around me to talk to me, support me whenever I need, but am sure there would be some space left for me to nurture these delicate stems so that they stay with me forever, strengthen them to avoid emotional gaps & misunderstandings.

If you see your Bank Balance today, you would always find a room to add more to it, so work harder, earn more & spend more. Similarly you can take efforts to add many more Happy moments & Celebrations to your Life.

If you try to analyze how much fun you have had till today, how many parties, movies, family outings, hangouts with friends you have had, it might be a big count, but am sure you would still want to add many more to that & you should aim to do so. Believe me you would find scope for improvement in every niche of your Life, like your Dressing, your Health, your Home, your Body and Inner you.

Your consistent determination to enhance your Life would leave no place for negativity, laziness, sorrows, pains, etc…With this little optimistic struggle for enrichment, you will keep growing higher and higher with a magnificent and finest past.

If you keep saying and believing that “I can do better than this” when it comes to any petty activity of your Life today, am sure you would feel pleased & gratified at the moment of your last breath, for you would have lived a Splendidly Perfect Life always.

Adieu...2012

2012 is all set & ready packing its bags…. Well, am happy, as this year was just like a guest to me whom you would not wish to welcome ever…  Somewhere the beginning of this year was boorish for me….It gave me lot of bites during  its stay with me…The painful burns, the pricking thorns, the awful memories made me lose & forget all the little bit good things happened to me during this year.. The left over scars flash a promo of the unpleasant glimpses together, giving me sleepless nights. ….But today I wish to give it a thought of why I am saying so…coz I always believe in one advice my mother gave... the nature believes in one funda..Give and Take or may be Tit for Tat…so its worth thinking & going at the beginning of the year to know where I went wrong & messed up my job. Coz whatever I got, may be so called bad, is nothing but what I gave, could be unintentionally. And believe me it made me sort my torments during the year… A little analysis of yourself helps you sort your problems…n may be the guilt of you doing wrong things, settles down. At times very conveniently we blame the situation, the people around us, the time in which we are breathing, but when you peep deeper you get to know its none other than ‘YOU’ who is responsible for the situation getting worst as you could have made it better taking a wiser decision with a smiling face. Its ‘YOU’ who attract negativity in the people around you, may be coz of your frowning face, your so called problems which in actual would be just tit bit ones for others, your cranky tears which drop due to your anger  and you might expect people to sympathize you who are already piled up with their heap of problems.  Well I have started believing in one thing strongly, phase of life, may be good or bad; will come and go SOME DAY, if its good enjoy it to the fullest, if its bad, take it as a  challenge to make it good in fraction of time.  And not to blame this year any more, would thank 2012 giving me the best of lessons which are etched into me forever.. As 2012 is bidding goodbye and sending my favorite goodies alongwith 2013, its time to close eyes, take a deep breath & welcome this fresh, warm & new year with new thoughts to my life……..WELCOME 2013……!!!!!! 

My Moment of Love….

I got married in January, 2010 to Sanket, more than a year after my engagement…We know each other since end of 2008. Not a very long courtship but short, crisp and exciting. Our courtship blossomed with lot of coffee dates, outings, shopping, family dinners, get togethers, gifts, etc, etc… But also had a pinch of small fights & arguments…which actually strengthened our love…which shall be the case with everyone….

And so our relationship moved on with planning & preparations for engagement, then wedding….Time travelled …very fast…after the wedding, it came to adjusting to the new routine & the new family…beautiful days with beautiful people…who very soon became....... MY PEOPLE…No doubt Sanket loved me at every point, always caressed my feelings & secured me… I loved him too, tried my best to support him always.. I never felt alone or left out… but still something was missing….Did not even realize that some spark, some feeling was missing in our relationship…Never realized until the day we had a big fight on some silly issue….It was more of a misunderstanding which at times inflates because of arguments…A general argument like anyone can have…But words cut words which at times hurt and then lead to distrust, pain, stings…. And so the pessimist part of me came out, bringing weird thoughts to my mind like this is the end of it… felt like the world is no more around for me…felt lost completely….My eyes ran out of water…This was the moment of realization that helped me unearth my moment of love…The feeling that made me feel, the eternal love I have for him…My life is nil without him, aimless without him…My life is as good as no life without him… But Sanket is prudent enough to not stretch the argument longer…. He made me understand that there is no point in extending fights if the fight is with your beloved one…. In the end, the person who loves you the most will always help you improve on your mistakes & if you really love the person, you will take efforts to avoid repeating the same mistake… Quarrels are temporary but most of them leave marks on the relationship that cannot be erased. Few marks embellish remembrance & few prick if remembered.

So I discovered my Moment of love, the feeling which made me realize that we are just made for each other…& my priority is only Sanket…Every day after that day built our relationship with stronger bricks of memories…indeed tightened our bond with tough knots those cannot be separated.

Music, the word itself is so soothing…. Different people will have different ideas about music…Few people live with it & few die with it…It cheers the happy mood paving a way to a bash or it even at times helps to calm the awful moments, the tragedies of life.. It actually pulls out the strings of your heart, vibrates them & put them back….

Apparently, melodies of music quite often connect me to a particular era…to some piece of my past….It revives my old memories & flashes….it actually makes me feel nostalgic.. Just like some fragrance of a perfume, few songs of a particular time will close your old instances behind your eyelids…

Music at times has also helped me to deal with few troubles of my life….It boosts me if I am feeling low at some point of time….& also makes me feel happier if I am already in high spirits…Its not like I sing well or know playing any musical organ, but I have a unique relationship with music. Daily on my way I put on my headphones, mornings are for soft music & evenings for party numbers…. I love to dream on music, I love to tap on music…It alters my mood from bad to good…& good to the best….Quite often I reach to a different trance…I can fantasize with music, which takes me to a different orbit making me build castles in air….I just love to be with music….Is the case same with you guys too????

I am happy today.....

Over a last few days, I was just wondering on what can be penned down….Several thoughts were floating around my mind but nothing could pass on to my fingers….But today, out of the blue, I feel to write on my mood today… I don’t know why I am feeling so happy today…Am going deep into my thoughts…to ponder what is making me feel so joyous, so positive…Is it the mirror which is saying “You are looking gorgeous today!!!” or is it that my Boss is not around and am really having a great time chatting with my colleagues, which relax me in the middle of my heap of work….Is it the weather outside which is splashing water all around & reflecting several shades of green….or is it because weekend is nearing & will be freaking out with my friends this Saturday night…..No matter whatever goes wrong today, my face is jeweled with a smile…
……So is it that things are going well on their own or is it that I am taking any effort to make my day cheerful? So here lies the answer; It seems once I decide on the dawn of the day, to be HAPPY,…I will be happy & blissful for sure…So this will lead me :- to dress to look the best of mine….to giggle on chats whether my Boss is around or not…..to soothe my eyes with shimmers of nature & ignoring the muddy water….& to plan a weekend to explore it to the fullest which will make my upcoming week go happy….So why not convince one’s heart to be happy everyday and leave the scars behind…why not line the dark clouds of awful memories with sparkling silvers making it look spectacular…why not feel contended always with whatever little you have than to weep on what you don’t have, which is not made for you...To cover the pessimism in one’s heart with tons of positives around, will surely help in growing ahead…and to live life than to leaving life….

Am I Shopaholic ???

Pleasure is a feeling that satisfies one on meeting his needs, making his/her dream come true, so it can be just anything that makes you feel elated…It could be a painting that you are dedicatedly completing since 2-3 days & gives u a beautiful picture after its final wash or a surprise from your better half…or also meeting an old friend….. But in my case, what immensely delights me is when I go on shopping…Shopping makes me feel not only pleased but contended and relaxed….It could sound a bit weird…but this is truly me…I just go crazy when it comes to shopping, not only when it is shopping for myself but also for anyone else; the reasoning here could be as whenever I go shopping for anyone else, I surely buy something for myself as well, may it be a tit bit thing. I just cant control myself when it comes to shopping….May it be buying a dress, a top, bag, footwear, accessories, watches, perfumes…etc…etc….It is an addiction which I cannot just resist…May be my hubby has to set up a rehabilitation centre to cure my this disease.. And also it could be a bit dangerous too, as this disease is contagious…It mainly spreads on accompanying a shopaholic…Like my sis in law who was not at all a shopper has changed noticeably & has decided to change her wardrobe…

I still cherish my College days memories when we used to go shopping at Fashion Street / Linking road…And the funniest part is I used to always be left with just about Rs.10-Rs.20 right at CST where all the way I had to still travel to Thane…Even though tummy is empty let the shopping bags overflow, this used to be our funda always….Also to save from daily pocket money, taking money from Mamma for 1st class pass n buying a 2nd class one, are few of my treasured moments too…These petty savings always helped in my shopping… …
Shopping not only gives me immense happiness but its also my stress buster. Whenever I am stressed, upset, have a fight with my hubby, I go for shopping…which not only empties my pockets but also empties my temper, my anger…The best thing what I can get from shopping is spending time with myself, to explore myself more, to blend with different hues, styles…I just love to spend time at different stores! But I feel myself lucky to have such a supportive husband who never ever opposes me when I go on shopping, though I shop first and then show him the stuff.....….But I leave this to him to decide whether he considers me a shopaholic???